I hate it when people overreact
Oct. 7th, 2004 05:12 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
beccastareyesOkay, so last night I arrived at the Anime Club's Con Volunteer meeting, and I'm a bit stressed, because every anime club member right now is either a)working on the con and stressed or b)not working on the con because while the idea of an anime convention in Nebraska delights them, the idea that they will not be able to fully enjoy it because the officers have them taking tickets/running panels/guarding the viewing room bothers them. But, that is another rant. I sit down, ask the people in charge for instructions, do not get them, so I sit back and wait. I notice two members in the corner engaged in a bout of teasing and it sounds to me like one member has crosed the line from teasing to harassing. I snap at her to cut it out, and am informed by the other member that I have misjudged the situation. I back off. Fine.
Now I get an IM form the member I snapped at. She demands an explanation for my behavior last night. I assume that she means the fact I was an hour late for the meeting because I have a GRE study session on Wednesdays, and point out that grad school is more important than anime. She askes me if my grad school is more important than basic human kindness. She also said that my comment deeply hurt her. I reply that I am stressed -- which she says doesn't excuse my behavior -- and boggle that one remark, made in passing by someone who really just wanted to crawl up nto her room and do homework, could 'deeply hurt' someone. Keep in mind, I barely rememebr what I said, but I am 99% certain is was pretty harmless. I also say that if one remark from a cranky person that wans't meant to hurt anyone could 'deeply wound' said member, she really ought to develop a thinker skin, because people could be cruel bastards sometimes -- a bit of a mistake, I suppose, but at this point I am just not getting this. Said member then informs me that if I ever hurt her or make a rude comment to her again, I will see what a cruel bastard she cna be. And logs out of AIM/blocks me.
And I still don't know what I said!
So, am I in the wrong here? I am this close to just hiding at my sister's place all of Saturday, and doing my Astronomy test.
EDIT: Talked to said member and got it straightened out. Seems the reaosn she was upset at me because I butted into a private conversation when she thought I shouldn't, and because I told her to 'stop being a jerk'
Now I get an IM form the member I snapped at. She demands an explanation for my behavior last night. I assume that she means the fact I was an hour late for the meeting because I have a GRE study session on Wednesdays, and point out that grad school is more important than anime. She askes me if my grad school is more important than basic human kindness. She also said that my comment deeply hurt her. I reply that I am stressed -- which she says doesn't excuse my behavior -- and boggle that one remark, made in passing by someone who really just wanted to crawl up nto her room and do homework, could 'deeply hurt' someone. Keep in mind, I barely rememebr what I said, but I am 99% certain is was pretty harmless. I also say that if one remark from a cranky person that wans't meant to hurt anyone could 'deeply wound' said member, she really ought to develop a thinker skin, because people could be cruel bastards sometimes -- a bit of a mistake, I suppose, but at this point I am just not getting this. Said member then informs me that if I ever hurt her or make a rude comment to her again, I will see what a cruel bastard she cna be. And logs out of AIM/blocks me.
And I still don't know what I said!
So, am I in the wrong here? I am this close to just hiding at my sister's place all of Saturday, and doing my Astronomy test.
EDIT: Talked to said member and got it straightened out. Seems the reaosn she was upset at me because I butted into a private conversation when she thought I shouldn't, and because I told her to 'stop being a jerk'
