beccastareyes

This was inspired by discussion of the character Winry (and Ed/Winry shipping) in the

fma_sanity community. The post is here. The general consensus is that Winry really needs some interaction with things that are not automail, because she's a rather childish 15.

It reminded me of something my mother said to me at dinner -- we went out to Wendy's, and they were out of the salads I normally eat there and was looking forward to. She commented that even five or six years ago (when I was about 15) I would have gotten upset at my plans being thwarted by the insufficient vegetable supply (for those 2 of you on my friendslist who don't know, I have Asperger's Syndrome and have pretty much been in either formal or informal counseling for it since I was 12). So, what can I say -- I have sympathy for people who have no social skills. On the other hand, my sympathy lasts until someone turns down help on social skills once he/she is aware of a problem -- Aspies (people with Asperger's Syndrome) who try to get NTs ('neurotypicals' -- normal people without Asperger's) to do what they want because they are special and have a syndrome earn a special death glare from me.

My friend, Sara, (

alannastar82, but she doesn't use her journal), also has AS, and for whatever reason, she isn't improving -- I don't know whether it is because she has a bad psychologist, or some of the people who she hangs around with reinforce her bad behavior, or she just doesn't get it even with knowing her diagnosis. We were a lot alike in high school (well, I was quieter), and she was my first real best friend, but now I can barly eat lunch wiht her without feeling like she's so much younger than me (scarily enough, she's nearly 2 years older than me). I think the same thing happened with Cassie, another friend of ours -- she and Sara were close in middle school, but drifted apart in high school as Cassie matured.

I feel bad about what's happening with Sara, but honestly, I don't know what to do. She doesn't seem to hang around me much any more -- she stopped going to anime club because 'they never showed anything she wanted to watch' (She threatened to sing badly if Excel Saga wasn't shown one meeting at anime club -- needless to say, this soured most of the club on her behavior, even those who liked Excel Saga) and instead games over the internet. Her major new friends seem to be a woman who doesn't seem to get that what's best for her isn't always what's best for everyone and the people on GameFAQS, most of whom have the mentality (if not the sex and age) of teenaged boys. She's graduated college, and has no idea on what to do next -- I'm not even entirly sure she can live on her own without parental help, even assuming she can get a job.

I don't really know where this is going, to be honest.